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croatoan: sleepingwithmonsters:

Cynthia Nixon, forever Miranda and now starring in Wit on Broadway, spoke to the New York Times about her relationship with partner Christine Marinoni, and the controversy her opinion has stirred:

I gave a speech recently, an empowerment speech to a gay audience, and it included the line “I’ve been straight and I’ve been gay, and gay is better.’” And they tried to get me to change it, because they said it implies that homosexuality can be a choice. And for me, it is a choice. I understand that for many people it’s not, but for me it’s a choice, and you don’t get to define my gayness for me. A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it’s a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn’t matter if we flew here or we swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not.

She then added:

Why can’t it be a choice? Why is that any less legitimate? It seems we’re just ceding this point to bigots who are demanding it, and I don’t think that they should define the terms of the debate. I also feel like people think I was walking around in a cloud and didn’t realize I was gay, which I find really offensive. I find it offensive to me, but I also find it offensive to all the men I’ve been out with.

PREACH.

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HOW IN THE MOTHERFUCK DO YOU SAY PREACH TO THIS? Are you fucking serious? She is obviously a bisexual woman, and saying that it’s a “choice” for everyone else just completely takes away from us actual gays. We so don’t fucking choose to be gay. If we could choose, don’t you think we would probably choose a cozy life free of harassment from bigots? I have just lost all respect for this woman. She is talking out of her fucking ass.

^yeah i think this was the commentary i was looking for

dont use your celebrity privilege to further muddle the heteronormative public’s already limited understanding of other sexualities

 k this is complicated and i don’t agree with any of the commentary, really.

i disagree with you saying she’s “obviously” a bisexual woman. not your place to decide how she identifies. i like having sex with men, but i prefer to be in relationships with women. but i do not identify as bisexual. i identify as queer or gay, depending on the day or my mood or who i’m talking to or whatever but if someone stepped up to me and was like “no you’re bisexual” i would tell them to fuck right the fuck off.

i also disagree with you saying “If we could choose, don’t you think we would probably choose a cozy life free of harassment from bigots?” i feel like i understand the sentiment behind this, but i disagree with how it’s being said. it’s sort of that tired, played out “ugh we’re born this way we can’t help it we can’t change!!” shit. and like for real i’m tired of that. i’m tired of queer people making it seem like if we could just wake up and be straight we would be chomping at the fucking bit to do it. nope. i like being queer. i don’t want to change me, i want to change the way the world treats me. i apologize if this is not what you were trying to say, but this is the way it comes off to me, and it’s an argument i’ve heard many, many times.

i absolutely cannot tell cynthia nixon how to identify, but i think what she said was incredibly irresponsible and dangerous. that’s a dangerous sentiment to just put out there in the world. if she thinks her gayness was a choice, whatever, but she’s a celebrity with an audience who will take what she said and twist it and distort it and think that all people chose to be gay. i did not choose to be gay. none of the people i know (correct me if i’m wrong) chose to be gay.

i made the choice to not have relationships with men. that’s a choice. my attraction to women, however, is most definitely not a choice.

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